Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Portrait of a Friend

In January of 1994 when I walked into the wrong math class I met a wonderful sister friend.  I wrote this about her in my English Class in 1994.  18 years later this little snippet still holds true.

Appearance wise my friend and I are like night and day.  
My friend's hair is long and blonde and her eyes are very light.  
The eyes on this German-Norwegian beauty 
change depending on her mood.  
At times they are the color of the deep blue ocean,
sometimes like a green topaz gem. 

The strength in her personality is that of a thousand men. 
Her warm and caring voice is one that uplifts me. 

My friend is not perfect but to me she is a perfect friend.

Respectfully & Sincerely yours,

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

No Filter

When is #no filter ok?

When I talked about this particular blog with a very important individual I said, "This is my NO FILTER blog. This is the page where I say what I am thinking and don't make it PC for anyone."

As I sit to write in my notebook I think about the integrity I have come to admire and desire.  I think about the feelings I have when I hear stories of folks disrespecting the people I love because they have No Filter.

Does No Filter mean I have to be crass and asinine?  

Does No Filter mean I can punch you in the face if you say or do something to insult me or be disrespectful?

What does having a Filter bring to communication?

I was having a conversation with one of my beloveds and they mentioned how hurt they were by someones behavior and disregard.  As this person was speaking I could feel the hurt and disappointment. I could hear the tears welling up in their chest and see the tears fighting to stay in their eyes. The situations revealed were surprising and saddened me. I thought, "Wow, is this No Filter freedom really worth it if you don't care for other's feelings?"

I think every situation is different and an individual.

I will take every circumstance CASE BY CASE. #No Filter. :) 

Respectfully & Sincerely yours,

Friday, June 15, 2012

Father's Day

I've been thinking about Parenthood for the past 15 years or so and for the past four my
mind had been focused on motherhood.  I hadn't really thought about Father's until I became a grown up.  Being in relationship with my partner, who is an amazing father, brought to light my thoughts on fatherhood.  One character trait that influenced the love I have for my partner is Integrity. One thing my partner does naturally and mindfully, that sealed the deal for me, is being a Dad.  A dad is behind you always, 100%, he loves his child unconditionally.

Father's day is a day to celebrate and honor DAD's not males who have sex with someone and the consequence is a child is conceived.  

There is a difference. A HUGE difference.

Also, I am of the school of thought that you don't have to be the donor to be considered a Dad.

I know of circumstances where the father had no idea the child existed, that's not what I'm referring to.  There are also people who just don't know any better because perhaps they never had a true father figure in their lives. I don't know the reason I just know, if you know better, you should do better.

I am grateful for my father, my dad and I know that he did and continues to do the best that he knows how for me and my 6 siblings.

Each of us has our own personal relationship with each person in our lives, this is a fact. Remember father's come in all shapes and sizes and all that matters is how you feel about him and the relationship you share. 

"It doesn't matter who my father was; 
it matters who I remember he was."
Anne Sexton

So today, tomorrow, Sunday (Father's Day 2012) and every day thereafter, show your respect and gratitude for the Father figure in your life. 

Life is Love.

Respectfully & Sincerely Yours,