Tuesday, December 4, 2012

What I focus on Expands

I am of the school of thought that what I focus on expands.  I earnestly believe that. I own it as on of my mantras yet there are times when I choose to focus on sadness or frustration or rejection. When I realize what I am doing I breathe and change my focus.

Now I don't know if this happens to you, but I often send messages to folks who "Pop Into My Mind," or send a thought I am looking to discuss and the message just disappears into the ether, I don't hear back from anyone. Often I don't ever get a response, ever. Many times, if the person is a special part of my heart, I don't pay attention to the lack of response and if they "Pop Into My Mind," again, I send another message. I choose to think they are just too busy and KNOW that I KNOW they received the message and things are moving as per the norm.  

The situation today is, sometimes I take it personal. I know it isn't personal. 
If you are familiar with Don Miguel's "The Four Agreements," you are familiar with Agreement Number Two: 

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you. 

What others say and do is a projection          of their own reality, their own dream.        When you are immune to the opinions         and actions of others, you won’t be the     victim of needless suffering.

I have noticed I take it even more personal when it is someone who I have never met. I think the person just doesn't want to be bothered but more than that I think, "Who the Heck do they think they are? They're too busy to respond to something that is important?" When I sit down, breathe and think, who is it important to? Do I always respond immediately? Is it really that serious? I say to myself, "Julie, go live. Be Love and trust that everything is fine, everything happens when it's suppose to happen and it is all good."  I literally have that conversation with myself sometimes and it works.  I remind myself it isn't personal and everyone has many things going on in their lives, we all do.  I had to sit down and remind myself today because I sent out two messages about two weeks ago and neither individual has responded. I'm pretty surprised and today I received a message from a third party and when I saw the other names on the recipient line I thought, "Hmmm, let's see if we all get a response now!"  As I sit to share this with you all I think, what a waste of energy. What I can be grateful for in this circumstance is that I have the "Don't Take Anything Personal" perspective and practice happening and I am reminded to BeLove.

Happy Tuesday my friends.
Go out there and BeLove!

If someone sent you a message or called you and you have yet to respond, take a moment today and send them a message, if I am that person, don't send me a text cause I have not had text capabilities on my cell phone ever since July 16, 2010 (That's my Best Friend's and A Very Special Sister Friend's Birthday-that's why I remember).

Check out the The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz, pick it for yourself or for a friend, it makes a great, "Just thinking of you," gift.


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Respectfully & Sincerely yours,



  1. Hi Julie! Thank you!! Thank you for bringing me into the present. I am so very guilty of doing this very thing ( not responding). I never think people notice. I hope you nor anyone else Im guilty of doing this to doesnt feel slighted ir as if they dont matter.
    I hope you are well and are continuosly spreading the joys of you!!
    Thank you Julie please know I do appreciate you.

  2. Hi. Thank YOU or your message. I truly appreciate you taking the time out to respond and share your thoughts.
    I don't really know who ORGANIZED BEWILDERMENT is but I love your Profile Name, it's very cool. :)